There is a clever chap, Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee who writes for The Guardian and was recently contemplating the deeper human issues that may be, in part responsible for our environmental crises.
He said, ‘If we go to the root of the present ecological crisis we will find a state of disconnection. We appear frighteningly disconnected from real awareness of the effects of our materialistic culture upon the very ecosystem that supports us. The challenge is to develop a value-based economic structure, that is not concerned solely with our material well-being, but embraces the whole human being – body and spirit – as well as the rich biodiversity of the Earth.’
Isn’t it funny how, when you focus on something, an idea, suddenly everything feels connected? I was having an internal conversation earlier this week, mulling over some random questions about the ‘disconnect’ we experience in our modern age. When I read Vaughan-Lee’s words, it felt like they clicked with thoughts I’d already been quietly having.
Are we becoming too disconnected?
When we get ‘plugged into’ technology, do we lose touch with the world around us? Phones, computers, and social media have become the default way we engage with life, but does all this tech really make us feel more connected, or are we simply distracted?
I wonder about this often. Especially when I notice myself getting caught up in the never-ending scroll of the internet, missing the simple joy of being—whether it’s just standing in the garden, taking in the fresh air, or having a real face-to-face conversation with someone I love. It’s easy to get swept up in the noise of it all and forget the grounding reality of the moment.
Are we bonded or just belonging?
When people move across the world, building modern families not connected by blood but by shared experience, do they truly feel they belong, or is something still missing? There’s such beauty in the diverse connections we form today—friendships, communities, and even families built through shared experiences. But deep down, do we feel bonded in a way that goes beyond the surface?
This made me think about the difference between belonging and feeling rooted. I think you can belong somewhere and still feel untethered, like you’re not fully bonded. That deeper connection—whether it’s with people, nature, or even yourself—takes effort, intention, and time. And sometimes, in our fast-paced world, we don’t allow ourselves the time to build those bonds.
Alone with your beliefs?
If people have their beliefs but don’t worship or gather with others, do they feel alone in the universe? It’s an interesting question. We live in a time where personal beliefs are often kept private, and we rarely share in rituals or community practices that bind us together. But what happens to our sense of connection when we no longer have those collective experiences? Can we still feel like part of something bigger?
I don’t have the answers. I don’t have strong opinions either. But what I do know is that the busier I get, and the more time I spend away from family, friends, nature—yeah, even my dog and my own quiet thoughts—the more I risk becoming spiritually disconnected.
How to connect in a disconnected world
In a world that often feels fragmented, it’s more important than ever to find ways to connect. And I’m not just talking about connecting to others, but also to yourself and the world around you. Here are a few ways I’ve found helpful in staying grounded and connected:
- Embrace nature. There’s something incredibly soothing about being in nature. Whether it’s a long walk in the woods, sitting by the water, or simply spending time in your garden, nature has a way of reminding us that we’re part of something bigger. It’s humbling, in the best way, and it’s the kind of connection that nourishes the soul.
- Reach out to others. Loneliness is a real issue, but the good news is, there are small things we can do to combat it. Send a message, make a call, or arrange to meet up with a friend. Even a short chat with someone can lift your spirits and remind you that you’re not alone. Sometimes, the act of reaching out can feel hard, but it’s always worth it.
- Be present. In a world that’s constantly pulling us in different directions, being present is one of the most valuable gifts we can give ourselves. Whether it’s taking a few deep breaths, enjoying your morning coffee without distractions, or spending quality time with someone you love—being in the moment helps you feel more connected to your life and the people around you.
- Give yourself space to reflect. We’re often so busy that we don’t give ourselves the time or space to reflect on how we’re feeling. Whether through journaling, meditation, or simply sitting quietly, carving out time to be with your thoughts can bring a sense of clarity and connection to yourself.
Finding meaning in simplicity
Right now, given some personal challenges, my motto is to do more with less—less time, less energy, less angst. And to live in the moment. There’s real freedom in simplifying things and finding joy in the small moments. In the end, it’s not about doing more, but about connecting more deeply to what really matters.
So, if you’re feeling a bit disconnected, I encourage you to slow down and find those small ways to reconnect. Whether it’s with the people you love, with nature, or with yourself, those connections are what nourish us and give life meaning.
A change in perspective
My hope for you is that you can find that sense of connection, too. Remember that it’s okay to reach out, to slow down, and to give yourself the space to feel grounded again. The world can feel lonely at times, but when we take a moment to look up and around, we might just find that we’re not as alone as we think.
Be well. Stay well.
Michelle
